7 Crushes

January 28th, 2009 by Jane

Crushes are usually thought to be bittersweet, angst-ridden parts of our personal history we gladly left behind in adolescence. Or a fizzy, neon-colored drink. Or a really great song. The word has had a resurgence of sorts in the last few years, that I find fascinating. Men freely admit to having a “man crush” on a man they admire. It seems most are directed toward athletes. My husband has a man crush on football player Vince Young. He is unashamed by it and seeks out others with whom to gush. I find this adorable and amusing, which he finds annoying. So, I decided to stand proud and reveal my grown-up crushes.

1. Seriously, if you have to ask why…
The crush I have had on Bruce Springsteen has only grown stronger in over two decades. I think he is a modern-day poet and storyteller whose music displays a depth and resonance that few others have achieved. The fact that the man just gets better and better is a testament to his talent and my good taste! I could go on, but go buy his new album and listen for yourself.

2. Married Men
I have a little collection of crushes on men who are more attractive because they are obviously smitten and devoted to their wives. I always liked Bono, Andy Garcia, Jon Bon Jovi and Denis Leary just fine, but when I heard each of them has been in a committed and seemingly-happy marriage for decades, their stock went up with me. Edgy comedian, Denis Leary,  practically turns into a besotted adolescent when speaking of his wife, writer Ann Leary. And that just makes him more adorable.

3. Where Are They Now?
I recently looked up the adolescent/young adult crush that stills holds any interest after I caught the last 45 minutes of Sixteen Candles on TV recently. You know you love Michael Schoeffling who played Jake Ryan, the object of Molly Ringwald’s crush. Evidently he is happily married and a father of two living in the Northeast. The fact that he is now a furniture maker who shuns public attention, just makes him cuter. 

4. Nobel Laureates
Jimmy Carter has spent his life since his presidency building homes for the poor, working diligently to bring peace to our planet and writing books that can be used as blueprints for how to craft a better world. A fellow traveler on this road is Desmond Tutu, who has founded a peace organization and continues to influence leaders around the world to be positive forces for change. You cannot get more crush-worthy than that!

5. Television Characters
In elementary school, I was convinced that I would grow up to marry Speed Racer and I would solve mysteries with him  while riding around in the Mach 5, a scarf tied jauntily around my hair. Our love was not something he was drawn for and I eventually moved on to more three-dimensional crushes. Lately, I have developed a crush on the bad-boy-with-a-wounded-heart character of Don Draper on Mad Men. Irresistible fantasy!

6. Fleur de Sel Caramel
Have you had chocolates with salted caramel?  Well, go get you some! Or try the new ice cream by Haagen-Dazs. Your chocolate crush is all grown-up!

7. Femi-Crush
Gloria Steinem and Anne Lamott are two women I would love to have over for dinner. Both are brilliant writers and public speakers, so I would expect we would have stimulating, informative and hilarious dinner conversation. My copies of their books are dog-eared and riddled with notes. I reread Bird by Bird at least once a year. Read Revolution from Within to rethink what you know about self-esteem. 


One Response to “7 Crushes”

  1. Ellie Skross Says:

    Jane,
    Love this post about crushes. It made me recall some of my crushes from grammer school through high school. I wonder where they are.

    You’re right on about married men who are obviously smitten with their wives. How about Denzel Washington?

    And men with brains, compassion and a commitment to making the world a better place. I would add to your list, Nelson Mandela, Jacques Cousteau and Colin Powell. Intelligence is a turn-on.

    Keep up the interesting posts. I look forward to them.

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